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Rosie Bowie
Rosie Bowie

I was saddened to hear about the fact that Christchurch Cathedral is to come down, even if the result may not have been altogether unsurprising.  But as someone who has worked from Christchurch on Christchurch dating issues for almost five years - and as I'm due there again this week - I really think that the loss of the Cathedral is literally removing the heart from the City.

And one of the things I have noticed with Christchurch dating clients is that while some have turned away from trying to establish a new life - in dating terms at least - others have really made an effort to try and find someone special to share their lives with after the trauma of the Christchurch quakes.

There's no doubt, and ample studies to prove the effect of traumatic events upon personal relationships and I can only say that it provides both opportunity and unique challenges in terms of finding success in a dating or matchmaking situation. 

Some people may be prepared to make the "leap" for the wrong reasons, perhaps due to emotional fragility and a need for someone to share their pain, while others can display other characteristics that may not necessarily be constructive to a long-term relationship.

Either way, we all need someone.  And when I meet clients in Christchurch I really think the need for social and emotional cures is just as challenging as the physical work that the city needs. 

If anyone in Christchurch wants to talk about dating or relationships, feel free to call me (021 476 454) or email me at and I'll be very happy to talk with you while in Christchurch.

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